How To Politely Request Money For Your Wishing Well

Hey there lovers,


Congratulations on your upcoming nuptials!

By now, you would (hopefully!) have set a date, confirmed the venue, drafted (and re-drafted!) your guest list, booked your photographer, caterer, florist, picked your dress, sent out your save the dates and maybe more (spotlight on the OTT-organised brides and grooms!). Now, it is the time to discuss the dreaded task of.... asking for money for your wishing well.

I don't know about you, but I'm a "don't-buy-me-anything-for-my-birthday-I-just-want-to-spend-the-day-with-you" kind of person... then secretly hope that they choose to give me a wicked awesome present that I know nothing about! So, when I found myself arriving at this very task when I was planning my wedding 5 years ago, I cringed with anticipation.
The BIG question is... how do you tell your family and friends what to give you for your wedding? That instead of a gift, you want money?


Towards your honeymoon, or your house, or your growing family? Regardless of what it is what you are asking for money for, it doesn't make it any easier to tell people what to give you, let alone give you anything!
Even though you may be like me and you may feel SUPER awkward telling people what to get you for your wedding, 9 times out of 10, your guests will want to get you something anyway, because they love you and they want to. So, shake that dreaded feeling away and let's discuss gifts!!
So, here are your options... you can:
  1. Remain silent on the matter and let your guests decide what they want to give you. You might get some gifts (yes that means you might get some gorgeous champagne flutes to add to the 12 champagne flutes you already have in your cupboard) aaaand you might get some cash.
  2. Open up a registry at one of your fave department stores (Myer or David Jones are good ones!) and then let people know that you would be very grateful if they could shop there for a gift for you.
  3. Send out a cute little card with a sweet little poem about how you have all the household items in the history of household items and what you'd reeeaaally appreciate is some money. To spend on your honeymoon. In Tahiti. In an over-the-water-bungalo. Watching the sunset. With a bottle of Dom Perignon. (yes please.)
Let's say that you've decided to go with door number threeeeeee. Now you need to decide what to write!
There are a lot of cute wishing well or gift poems in circulation at the moment. Some are short, some are long, some are about honeymoons, some are about overflowing households. Here are some of the best ones going around....
Short & Simple 
If finding a gift is hard to do,
Then our wishing well is just for you.
A gift of money is placed in the well,
Then make a wish, but do not tell!
If you are having trouble finding just the gift for us, This may prove a solution with a minimum of fuss. Just pop your gift inside the flower and pin it to our tree, And make a wish for happiness forever ours to be.
We haven’t got a gift list, for all of you to see, Because as you all know we never can agree! But if you’d like to help us, start our married life, cash or high street vouchers, would save a lot of strife.
Because at first we lived in sin We’ve got the sheets and a rubbish bin A gift from you would be swell But we’d prefer a donation to our wishing well
So what do you get For the Bride and Groom, Whose house needs things In every room? When shopping for a gift, You needn’t be rash, As there’s always the option, To just give cash! We hope you don’t find, Our request to be funny The decision is yours: To buy a present or give money. Now you have the choice, Please do not fuss. The most important thing of all, Is that you’re there to celebrate with us!
More than just kisses so far we’ve shared Our home has been made with love and care Most things we need we’ve already got Like a toaster and kettle, pans and pots
A wishing well we thought would be great (but only if you wish to participate ) A gift of money is placed in a well Then make a wish…but do not tell
Once we’ve replaced the old with the new We can look back and say it was all thanks to you! And in return for your kindness we’re sure that one day soon you’ll get what you wished for!
On the road to married life we’ve collected many things to be husband and wife.
The honeymoon however, is another thing; we had to choose between it and the wedding rings!
A donation to our wishing well would be appreciated in every way as it will help to send us on a romantic holiday.
Now we are to be Mr & Mrs We don’t need a wedding list of dishes. A holiday is what we need, so your help with this would be a great gift indeed. So should you wish to honour us with a gift, we have registered a honeymoon registry at Flight Centre where you can make a contribution to help us make a honeymoon a memory that will last a lifetime.
House Renovations 
They have their dishes and towels for two, They have pots and pans and oven mitts too.
Their house needs repairs and some upgrades too, But you cannot register for carpet and glue. An envelope will be provided for those who have room, To give a monetary wish to the bride and groom.
For a new house 
If finding a gift is hard to do,
then our wishing well is just for you.
We’d love to save funds for our new nest,
so we can move in, settle down, and rest.
But most importantly we request,
that you join us as our guest.
Your presence at our wedding is present enough. But if we’re honoured with a gift from you May we respectfully request a gift of money To help the building of our dream home come true!
There are maaaaany other cute poems that you can find on the web, or you can be creative and write your own!
Good luck lovers ♡
Jem x

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